Is it just me or can you feel when someones in a bad mood? This may seem like a silly question to some, but to others its just like seeing the colour of someones skin.
“ The environment is everything that isn't me.
From a young age I was able to see colours. Lots of colours around people. Not so much these days, but I can still sense what someone is feeling. Call it empathic, or just polite observation of my surroundings and those that exist within my space. Sure Im an Osteopath and part of our training is to increase our sensual awareness and observation. How is someone walking? Does their gait give me any information that I can tell whats going on? After years of doing it, hell yes. Its as obvious as the colour of a dandelion. After years of training and practise the sensory palpatory nerves in my hands have developed so I can feel the skin, the muscles, the scar tissues, the dysfunction or disease. Patients often ask me “can you feel that” and my response is “ Yes. It is so blindly obvious” Without sounding cocky Im sometimes 100% confident that even without all the orthopaedic testing I know the results of your ultra sound even before you have had it.
So what about you? How can you develop these talents without doing all the years of university that I did. It is Easy.
Firstly STOP. Step back, observe and listen…and repeat over and over…listen listen listen listen with your ears, listen with your eyes, listen with your hands, listen with your skin. The information is there, you just need to open your eyes and see it……With ALL your senses.
Even after you have made all the changes in your personal and public life to better yourself as a person and live a happy and healthy life with a good quality of life other peoples stuff still affects you. Other peoples problems, moods and the demands that they place on you affect the way you are, even if you are in a great place. Whether or not these are family, friends, work collegues or strangers they impact your life.
Again STOP. Step back, observe and listen.
Most often they are just after someone to listen, not solve any problems or fix them or help them. Usaully the person is in a reactive state, kinda like a rat in a little wheel running around and around. Whether it be their genetics, their stress levels from work/home/life, the foods they are eating, the medication they are taking, or a combination of factors.
If you say anything then you too are reacting. So just listen and breathe and let it wash over you ? Occasionally a word of acknowledgment ensures confidence that you are acutally listening.
Just sit, listen and let them offload on you.
Ahh to off load. It’s a great feeling, just like crying. Get it out. Better out than in. And you feel soooo much lighter afterwards. Yes? But what about you? You don’t need that crap to make you feel better. Then don’t take it. The art of learning to listen, breathe, whilst being completely at peace inside is in fact an art. Some people create an imaginary bubble or pyramid around them to protect them. This is effective but can be sometimes exhausting to keep up. I have found the best way to counter this is to become completely transparent. All energy, be it sound, light, vibration, other just washes right through me. Creating your own transparency is very similar to mindfulness and meditation. Practise makes perfect. Imagine the air around you is water and it just flows through your water body and out the other side. Or imgine yourself on the horizon and you are so vast that the local vibration of your friend is almost insignificant and just washes straight through your infinite ocean like a little stream.
During your practise and it depends on the sitation, if someone is too much for you then the easiest thing to do is just stand up and walk away. You don’t need to explain your behaviour, for the person polluting your energy isnt apologetic or explanational are they? Stand up, walk away and reempower yourself. You don’t need to put up with other peoples shit anymore- it only encourages them.
Silence and Time heal a lot of things.
Good Luck on your journey you are embarking on. You deserve it.
Pain makes you stronger, tears make you braver, heartbreak makes you wiser. Thank you to the past for a better future Anon
Disclaimer: The content of this blog is informative only and is my opinion. It does not constitute medical advice. Always consult your GP or medical specialist before changing or coming off any medication.